Confirming My Atheism

It was just a year after my loss of faith that the first of two terrible incidents occurred that confirmed my atheism. It was the morning after Bobby Kennedy was shot. I was taking swimming lessons from the Red Cross at the local college. Just before noon that Wednesday, I was leaving the natatorium, walking to my bicycle in my swimming suit, tee-shirt, and blue canvas sneakers. A man approached me and asked if I were in the swimming program. When I answered that I was, he insisted I accompany him to his office to fill out extra forms. As this was 1968, boys had not become wary of strange adults making such demands. I did as I was told. When the man had satisfied his desires, he warned me not to tell anyone about what had just happened or he would kill my parents. I was terrified and believed him. Seven months later, my father died in the crash of a Piper Apache in an ice storm on the plains of the American Midwest. He was the foundation of my life, the only force of stability and encouragement I knew and though I intellectually knew I was not responsible for his death, emotionally, I was convinced the man thought I had told what happened and he had killed my father in retribution.  I never said anything about what happened until I was thirty-five.

There were adults who tried to tell me that God had a plan for Daddy and had taken him for a reason. I could think of no possible reason God would end the life of a good and decent man; nor, could I think why he would permit a ten year-old boy to be terrorized in such a vicious way. I still don’t. I still cannot accept that a loving and omnipotent God would allow the horrors and suffering that afflict our world. How barbarous and cruel that he should look at life as a test. How selfish and arrogant that he would demand worship or cast those who failed or refused into the fires of Hell for eternity. It made no sense. It was just not possible.

If I had any second thoughts about my atheism before, the events of June 1968 and of January 1969 ended them, and though there have been times in adolescence and adulthood when I wavered in my conviction, when desperation and hopelessness led me to the extreme of trying to believe, I have been reconfirmed in my certitude that there is no God and I now find more peace and serenity than I have known since my childhood. There are still challenges in my life, still pain and uncertainty; but, I am facing those challenges with more strength than ever and making the best of what time I have left.

Leaving Faith Behind

It was forty-one years ago, as a precocious nine-year-old, that I decided I was an atheist. I was reading a book on Greek and Roman mythology when I began to wonder about the similarities and differences between the religions of Greece and Rome and that of Christianity. The book I was reading made clear the author’s belief that Zeus and Jupiter and their families of gods and goddesses were simply fables created to explain the many phenomena of nature that the people of Greece and Rome could not explain. So, I asked myself, why should I not consider the “God” of the Bible to be simply the result of the same process? The adults around me were of little help, advising me that I simply had to have faith that God was God and Jesus was his son and my savior. When asked why I had to have faith, the answer was a simple, “Because, that’s the way it is.”

 

That was not enough for me and the memory of the revelation that Santa Claus was not real, a disillusionment experienced a few years before, led me to conclude that I was not going to be fooled again. I would not believe in something simply because the adults in my life told me to, nor because it made me feel better to do so. If I was going to believe in something, it was going to be because I knew it to be true. And, thus, in the spring of 1967, when I was a precocious nine year-old, I ceased to believe in God and became an atheist.

 

I have experienced a bumpy ride since then, without the benefit of the seat belt of faith, and there were times, in despair and depression, that I weakened and tried to believe out of fear and hope. When I attempted recovery from alcohol and chemical abuse, I was told to “fake it ’till I made it.” I tried, but it has not been until recently, when I no longer felt the need to remain in the closet to my family as an atheist and to stop trying to fake it, that I have achieved long-term sobriety. I became clean and sober without superstition.

 

I “celebrated” my fiftieth birthday a few months ago, an event which, like my fortieth, has inspired a great deal of soul searching and introspection. Life has been challenging and many of these challenges were self-inflicted. I am on a journey of self-discovery now, learning how I have made mistakes, how others rightly or wrongly influenced the poor decisions I made, and studying the abuse I survived as a child and adolescent to learn what behaviors in which I now engage have their roots in the pain and self-loathing of my youth. I hope to share this journey with those who find my blog and I hope you, as a reader, will return and also share your own thoughts with me and others. Thank you!